James Allen said in his book, As A Man Thinketh, “Good thoughts and actions can never produce bad results; bad thoughts and actions can never produce good results”. You are what you think! “This is just saying that nothing can come from corn but corn, nothing can come from wheat but wheat. Men understand this law in the natural world and work with it; but few understand it in the mental and moral world and they do not co-operate with it.”
He says that suffering is nothing but a result of wrong thoughts in some area of your life. It indicates that the person is not in harmony with himself and the beliefs of him being the way he wants to be.
He also says that suffering shouldn’t be taken in a negative way because everything is making us learn something about ourselves. Suffering, he says, is an act of purification, to burn out all that is useless and impure.
It is the same as how diamond or gold is formed. The process of burning and hot environment makes such beautiful things worn by everyone with a sense of pride. It is the same way suffering makes you more beautiful if you understand the true meaning of it and the real reason behind it.
You are what you think. The suffering or the pain is the result of mental disharmony, which means when you feel unaligned with the set of rules you have made for yourself about how life should be.
Rules or Flexibility?
In life, people live by many rules. Some are good like waking up early, doing exercise, taking care of your mental health, being a good person, speaking the truth, helping people, etc but it is to wonder if all your rules are serving you the purpose you need and making you feel happy and fulfilled and not angry, frustrated and sad all the time.
The most successful or the happiest people are those who are the most flexible. Flexibility doesn’t mean you compromise your identity, but it is about creating value that you and the other feel. It is about creating connections that last!
So, next time you feel like people are not really listening to you or judging you, try a different approach to understanding what they might be missing from your conversations.
“I only like the red”, “Oh! you like the red, you know red is favorite for a super angry person”, “I can understand why my liking red may come off as aggressive, but I like the red because it reminds me of love”, “Awwww.. that’s so sweet, you are really sweet. I bet you shower your partner with lots of love”.
What happened in the above conversation. Instead of feeling bad about being judged for liking the color red, the open communication made it possible for the two people to really connect.
The feelings you feel on a regular basis influence you to make some key decisions in your life. You are what you think, so stand guard at the gates of your mind about what you are letting in.
